I’m Annie and I’m a compulsive overeater.
There is a small group within the OA group I belong to (is that the right term for it?) that is working on a study of the book Drop The Rock. This is not specifically an OA book, but it is an in-depth look at steps 6 and 7 in the 12-step program. The section we read last night was on step seven. One thing that really popped out at me was the author saying something about needing to act as if he wants to be happy, serene, and sane. He didn’t say that he needs to act as if he already is happy, serene, and sane, but that he has to act as if he wants to be happy, serene, and sane.
That just really stuck in my head. This whole acting “as if” thing is odd to me. I’ve been real good at acting “as if” nothing is wrong and hiding my feelings behind food. So I am not totally convinced that acting “as if” is the right thing to do. But what really got to me about this issue was the idea of acting as if happiness, serenity, and sanity are things that I want in my life. Don’t know about you, but I certainly don’t need to act like I want that stuff. I KNOW that I want it! It’s the getting it that I am having problems with.
Food certainly hasn’t been the answer. I might feel happy and serene at the moment I am taking a bite of something. But as soon as I put down the fork, the feeling I am left with is anything other than sane. And the surgery that I am planning isn’t going to bring happiness. Health, now that is what I am shooting for there. And I suppose I am hoping that being healthy will lead to a happier me. But I am not expecting surgery to bring the happiness I want.
So I suppose knowing that I want to be happy, I might as well “act as if” I am already happy. I don’t see that it will hurt. In a way, it seems like a lie, though, to pretend something I don’t feel. But if acting happy can “trick” my mind into believing I am happy, I might as well give it a shot.